Wednesday, August 31, 2011

"Language is wine upon the lips." -Virginia Woolf

To begin with, I would just like to say that if you are ever in Florence and you get on the wrong bus, don’t panic.  Do one of two things:  [1] wait and hour or so for the bus to arrive back at your original location and try again or [2] ask an Italian for help.  In my case, I did both and it took me two hours to get home.  But, it was quite the adventure!  After riding what I thought was the right bus for about an hour (like I said) I finally asked the gentlemen next to me, “Corsica?”  Corsica is of course my stop.  Thankfully, he spoke English and he asked the driver.  The driver explained that I was on the wrong bus and the nice man who helped me, whose name is I think Valesso, got off with me at the next stop and got me on to the right bus.  He lived really close by so he was more than willing to do so.  Meno male! 

NOTE:  “Meno male” literally translates to “less bad.”  However, most Americans might use it in place of “Thank God!”

ANYWAY….

The last few days have been a rollercoaster.  So, to save us time, I am going to condense everything into a few short sections.  Pronto? (Ready?).  Allora!  (Okay!).


My Host Family

I am now the “adopted” son of Nadia and Pasquale (Nadia mi momma e Pasquale mi babbo’).  The first day was super rough.  They speak very little English and I ended up crying myself to sleep the first night.  It’s so painful to not be able to do something as simple as talk.  And, if you know me, you know I have grande bocca (big mouth).  So, yeah, that was hard.  At dinner, I sort of felt like a piece of furniture because neither myself nor mi host parents could really say anything.  I managed a few rough sentences like, “Sono studiento di politico.”  This translates into “I am a student of politics.”  They smiled and nodded and that was about it.  However, I will say that they welcomed me right into their home and I was tickled pink when I saw that they had hung a patchwork American flag on my bedroom door (see picture below).


I remember chatting with Stephen on Facebook, telling him how much I loved and missed him and that I wanted to come home.  His response?  “You don’t want to come home, babe.  It will get better.”    And do you know what?  It did!  I had to throw myself into the "lion’s den" so to speak, but things did get better!  Tonight, I managed to have a shaky, but productive, conversation for about uno oro (one hour) at dinner.

Italian Politics (For Beginners)

The main topic of our discussion was politics, (duh!).  Like the U.S., Italy is a democracy with two chambers in its parliament (sort of like the House and the Senate).  Historically, the “House” has been the weaker of the two but both must agree before legislation can be put forth (just like the U.S.).  However, their leadership roles get a little messy.  I’m still unsure as to how it works but apparently there is a president and a prime minister.  The president is above the prime minister but the prime minster is the "face" of the country and has a lot of power.  Anyway, the current prime minister, Silvio Berlusconi, is not a popular figure in my host family’s home (my professoro di l’italiano doesn’t like him either).  He is, according to mi host babbo’, a combination of multiple curse words that I do not quite understand.  Apparently, Berlusconi has destroyed the education system in Italy.  All of the private schools are, according to mi host mamma, “corrupt.”  “You have money, you no study,” she tells me with a shrug.  Tragic!


Above:  Silvio Berlusconi, Prime Minister of Italia.  The man mi mamma says is "male" (bad). 

Anyway, to make a long story short, mi host familia are democratica l’italia (Italian democrats).  Basically, Italian democrats are similar to American democrats.  You can imagine my excitement!  They really like President Obama and Secretary Clinton.  But, (hold on to your hats, folks) THEY SUPPORT MARRIAGE EQUALITY AND THINK THAT THERE NEEDS TO BE MORE WOMEN IN PUBLIC OFFICE!  Uhhhh, yeah, they are just that awesome.  I haven’t told them about myself yet, but I think mi mamma knows something; she winked at me with a coy smile when I asked her about gay rights in Italy.  I think I am going to show her a picture of Stephen tomorrow.  :)
Oh, and one last thing:  the Pope is a very powerful political figure (as if we didn’t already know that).  Mi host mamma told me that because of his influence, rights will always be very medieval.  For example, children cannot be adopted by single parents.  There must be a mamma e babbo’!  Mi mamma e babbo’ think this is, as mi babbo’ said, “stup-eed.” 

NOTE:  The letter “i” in l’italiano makes a long “e” sound.  So, that’s why when mi babbo’ said “stupid,” he really emphasized the “i.”


Well, I could go on for oros (hours) but I need to get some sleep.  Long day tomorrow and its almost 1:00 A.M!  My first quiz is Friday and then it’s off to Pisa on Saturday! 

Buononotte!  (Goodnight!)




The view of Florence from my bedroom patio.  *Sigh*

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Allegro!


Things I’ve learned so far:


1.   Olive Garden and other “Italian” ristoranti in America are a disgrace.
2.  Professora Luigi is the coolest guy ever.
3.   Sundays in Italy are about long walks and sunshine.
4.   Pasta comes in many……shapes.  :p
5.   The Mediterranean diet is perhaps the healthiest I have encountered.
6.   Vino e’ buono!
7.   So is formaggio!
8.   Never ask an Italian their age.
9.   Firenze never sleeps.
10. The best study parties take place under the stars on the steps of a duomo.


...like I said, long walks and sunshine.  <3



Sunday, August 28, 2011

"Love is a temple. Love is a higher law." -Mary J. Blige

 Ladies and gentlemen, your attention, if you please!  As of today, August 27, 2011 my adventure has begun!  And let me just say that getting to Florence was perhaps the most difficult journey I have ever traveled.  I mean, let’s leave out the intense winds that were laying the smack-down on Florence upon our arrival hereby forcing our pilot to land in Bologna from whence we took an hour-long bus ride to the city that has for decades been nicknamed the “cradle” of the Italian language (Florence, duh!).  Those sorts of delays/mishaps are to be expected when traveling.  No, what made this journey so difficult was the emotional pain that it inflicted.  Let me set the stage for you…
        
Friday, August 26, 2011.  It’s 6 A.M. and I, like always, got up to make a pot of coffee.  I rolled over and looked at Stephen for a few moments (he looks like an angel when he sleeps, and I mean that).  I made my way to the kitchen and started to fill up the coffeemaker when it suddenly hit me like someone had driven their fist through my stomach, reached up, and yanked my heart out:  “This is the last time I’ll be doing this for a good long while.”  I had to put the coffeepot down on the counter to keep from dropping it (my hands started to tremble, you see).  I collapsed on the kitchen floor and started to bawl.  I felt sick, my skin was hot, and the tears just kept on coming.  When Stephen got up (exactly 40 minutes before I left) it took all I had to keep from crying when I looked at him.  When he kissed me one last time, I didn’t want him to stop.  I almost wanted to grab my suitcase, turn back around, and walk back to our little two-bedroom apartment with him at my side.  But, I didn’t.  True love is immortal and I decided in that moment that I was going to make it my greatest weapon.  My love for Stephen is not going to be a source of weakness on this little trip of mine.  It’s going to be my greatest strength.  It’s kind of like in Titanic when Jack says to Rose, “If you jump, I jump.”  Even though I despise Leonardo what’s his face as an actor, (I really do know his name, I just don’t feel like typing it), that’s exactly the kind of attitude I’m going to have.  Love is supposed to lift you up, not tear you down.  Even though I’m half way around the world, I can still feel Stephen’s unyielding love for me thumping onward like a drum.  We’ve got our own rhythm going and it’s going to be my anthem every minute that I’m here.  It’s Italy for heaven’s sake!  It’s like the most romantic country on earth!  What better way to experience it than with my heart so full of love?

ANYWAY, I think you get the point:  long-distance love = lots of crying and the eventual realization that love knows no limits.  <3

So, here I sit:  somewhere in the heart of Florence with the window open and my flying buddies Jessica and Erin at my side.  What more can I say?  I’m tired.  The breeze coming through the window is refreshing.  And I’m wondering what this bed I’m on is made out of.  It’s like lying on a big fluffy cloud!  Sleep sure sounds lovely right about now…

Oh, but, one more thing before I go:  the next time you’re in Florence, go to La Lampara Pizzeria and ask for Nat!  He’s like super short, has a squeaky voice, and is perhaps one of the most adorable old men I’ve ever seen!  He gave us a round of lemon cello on the house (if you don’t know what lemon cello is, look it up!) and 15% off of our next meal.  Oh, these Italians!  Hospitality and friendship, it seems, are what they live for.  I think it’s going to be okay.  No, scratch that. I AM GOING TO BE OKAY. 

Ciao! 

P.S. Stephen if you’re reading this, know that I love you and miss you more than you can imagine.  I can’t wait for you to come and visit me!


Above:  After over ten hours in the air, being able to lie horizontal almost brought me to tears.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

"It's a journey....and I want....to go." -Nikki Giovanni

In one month and seven days I will embark on a journey; I will turn my world upside down and enter the majestic and breathtaking world that is Italia.  I will leave behind me many things that I love dearly:  the creature comforts of home, my family, my partner (Who I hope has been taking notes when I cook!  Oh well, I guess there’s always Hamburger Helper!), countless friends, my professors at Coe College (home of the Kohawks!), and the list goes on.  What are the chances that I will cry as hard as I did when Bea Arthur kicked the bucket?  Very high.  Am I scared?  I’m terrified.  Will I squeal with delight as soon as I touch down on Italian soil (err, pavement…)?  Get ready to plug your ears!  Can I contain my excitement?  Girl, please!  Not even a pack of wild dogs could contain me!

Like most epic (hopefully, that is) events in life, it’s always best to have no expectations.  If you have no expectations, then you will be surprised (hopefully, pleasantly) no matter what happens.  But, I’m only human and because of this, having no expectations is…well….let’s just say I suck at it!  Therefore, because I do have expectations, I have decided to condense them into a list of very broad goals/rules for myself.  Perhaps, you, too, can refer to this list when you set out on your next journey.  Although, isn’t life itself just one great, slightly bumpy journey?  Hmmmmm….something to ponder!

Goals/Rules for my Italian Adventure (Or, perhaps, for life in general.  Take it however you like):

1. Be honest and intentional.
2. Be open-minded while also remembering where it is that you come from.
3. Learn all that you can.
4. Find beauty in frustration.
5. Share your story, but leave enough time in your day to hear the stories of others.
6. Seek truth but also be comfortable with uncertainty.
7. Know that an infinite beyond this world is serving as your guide even when it is not visually obvious.
8. Eat, drink, and for heaven’s sake be merry!

This list is by no means concrete; every day brings with it new troubles, new reasons to laugh, and new conversations.  But, this list of eight things seems to be a good starting point.  And speaking of lists: you don’t even want to see my PACKING list.  Some of my friends call me high maintenance but I would like to take this moment to respectfully disagree.  It’s called being prepared!  Although, do you think that the Kitchen Aid mixer and my four-month supply of hair spray are a bit excessive?


……….*shocked gasps, rolling eyes*……….


I’m only kidding!  Jeesh!  But, seriously, hair spray is so very essential! 

Well, I could write for hours, but there aren’t too many left in the day.  So, for now, I’ll say “Arrivederci!”  I have some books to read, laundry to fold, and dinner to finish.  I told you, my partner doesn’t cook!  He is pretty good about taking out the garbage, though!  ;)

Until next time!

-Tyler  J